A certified way to lose your girl

Posted on: March 18th, 2010 by relationadmin | 8 Comments

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Ok so I have an analogy for you guys, what happens if you leave your car door unlocked and someone steals your car aren’t you the one to blame, especially if you didn’t bother to check if the car door was  locked. What I’m saying is that you should always make sure that what you have remains protected, or it can really cost you. Ok so enough analogies for now; let’s get to the real point of it all.

I have always said and believed that if my girlfriend wants to do something as stupid as cheat on me, I don’t want it to be on my account or because of something I did or didn’t do.  Although one of the things men hate about women is how they require our undivided attention, we do in fact try our best to provide all it if we can. I mean I can’t stand women that want attention 24/7. I think it’s just pure selfishness, when a woman wants a man’s world to revolve solely around her.

Women required attention

With that said, I do know though that women are emotional creatures and they do in fact require that a man pay attention to them. They want to have that emotional connection with their man, to have something I feel to talk about with their girlfriends. So what I’m saying and this is for the men especially, if you have a girlfriend and you are not giving her the attention she requires, then you might as well, just stop being with her because she may start getting it elsewhere. Believe me some men can seek out women that are in relationships but are vulnerable because they aren’t getting the attention that they need from their own men, hey it doesn’t require much work on his part to do what her man isn’t doing.

Most of the time women end up cheating or come close to doing it because the guy they are with are not putting in the work in the relationship. If your girl feels that she’s doing all she can to make it work and you are just doing the minimal on your part, if she gets with someone else that’s giving the same amount as she is, then gentlemen you really don’t have a case in getting mad. Now I’m not condoning the cheating part, but I guess what I’m saying is that, women will naturally go where they feel wanted, needed or appreciated.

Ok so here’s a short story of a girl that’s dating this guy and she feels sometimes she’s putting in all of the extra work and he isn’t making much of an effort. They are in a long distance relationship and sometimes they go on for days without talking to each other for some reason or another. Sometimes it’s work, school, etc. Right now the situation is pretty intense because her man doesn’t even live in the states so talking to him is so much more difficult. In the past week he recently moved from one apartment to another and he hasn’t gotten his phone hooked up so they really haven’t spoken to each other for a good number of days. So this has really put a strain on their relationship, to her it seems that he just isn’t even trying to find a way to contact her at least to check in and let her know that he’s alright. She feels helpless and really wishes that he would put in that extra effort to make the relationship work. But it gets better, she is now in a situation where a “friend” from the past has stepped back into her life and he is saying and doing all of the things that she simply wishes her man would do for her. She finds herself being drawn into this friend although she is still very much in love with her man. Problem, I would definitely think so. (8201)

A certified way to lose your girl
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8 Responses

  1. Gasou says:

    I appreciate the fact that a man has the courage to say or admit that sometimes women cheat because of lack of attention, which is not a pass for you ladies to cheat. It’s not hard to say “your hair look nice,” “I like this dress on you” or “Honey I called to say good night.” Things as simple as this make us happy.

  2. Gasou says:

    I commented on only this part because me specially as a woman I love attention and compliment. Listen to this!I took my time to buy a cute dress, get my hair done and bring my beauty out more to go in a date with him; we spent 3 hours, let’s say,togheter, and he didn’t mention anything about how I look. But after that I had to meet with the girls somewhere to have some fun; I passed 2 hours there and 4 men came to me just to tell me how lovely I look. Guess what, I start comparing now. Was he so into me or the date he couldn’t see how I look or these 4 men have an extra sens that he doesn’t have?

    • I understand what you are saying but you didn’t buy the dress, for him, you didn’t get your hair done for him. Well at least you shouldn’t. You should know you look good. Some people are just not good with compliments. They find it hard to give and receive. Attention is a major factor in a relationship. I tell my women she looks good even if she’s not wearing anything… wait, that didn’t come out right. even if didn’t get her hair done and this and that…. but I see where you are coming from.

  3. Gasou says:

    Of course I didn’t buy it for him. I don’t need him to tell me I look good; I already know that without even looking in a mirror. But I want to hear it from him, I need him to pay attention to the little details. I think it’s specially mandatory for those who are dating a woman who didn’t have a father in her life(that could be an article itself).

    • Well good luck, paying attention to details is not something men really do. Some can but most cant. Well, maybe you should share with us an Article on the effect of a woman who didn’t have a father in her life how attention can make a big difference…..

  4. Dannika says:

    I think that the girl should sit down and talkn to her partner and agree on what should be done…Some girls force thier partner to give them so much attention and it can get them to the point where they dont need eachother.

    • Thank you Dannika its good to know and coming form a girl. Some times the attention required is just too much but some times that much attention is required because its not enough.

      Too much of anything is not good for you.

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