Many males seem to think that sex is what defines them as man but I have news for you, if you need sex to make you a man then you truly have no idea what it means to be a man. A man is someone who takes care of his business and his woman. I don’t need to have sex with my girl for her to see me as a man. My thing has always been any loser can get laid. It doesn’t require much nowadays to get laid.
All you have to do is find a vulnerable woman/girl find the right moment and sweep her off her feet and the potential to get laid just skyrocketed. Sorry ladies, but sometimes it just seems that easy. A man to me is the guy that can keep his girl interested in him after many years and he’s still interested to his woman. It’s been a long time since my girl and I have been together, I kid you not, I still get a funny feeling in my stomach whenever I know I am going to see her.
Another reason for me, personally wanting to wait for our wedding day is that I feel a honeymoon isn’t really one if I have been getting it on prior, it should just be called a vacation or getaway (just thought I’d throw that in there). During the wedding, the girl gets to have all the glitz and glamour and well let’s say the guy gets to unwrap the present, his glitz and glamour at the end of the day, which should be the best gift yet (Oh Yeah).
I’ve heard from many people that they will not marry a woman without having sex first with her, I guess to know if she’s any good and men aren’t the only one guilty of saying this too, but like I’ve said before this is the way we’ve chosen to live our lives that has worked for us. We find that putting God as the center and forefront of our relationship has allowed it to grow in ways we’ve never imagined, so yes the temptation is there but what’s more important to us than that is our relationship with God. Now we know people will have their opinions and their own convictions, but all I know is that this is what has worked for us and God willing will continue to work for us until we say “I do”.
For all who are interested in biblical text that speaks on this:
Sex is a gift God gives to married people for their mutual enjoyment. It’s in the Bible, Proverbs 5:18-19, “Let your manhood be a blessing; rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let her charms and tender embrace satisfy you. Let her love alone fill you with delight.” I Thessalonians 4:3-5,