Hey guys hope you are all doing well. Not too good on my side, I have this cold that’s try to keep me down.

Being in a relationship can be really hectic at times and if we don’t know what to do during these times we may end up doing and saying things which we may not be able to retract. There are many things that can cause such situations of which, trusting issues, school, work, individualism, infidelity and so much more.

We are all at one point in time in a relationship feel stranded and caved in and want some space to breathe. And frankly the problem may not be related to your significant other. As mentioned before it may be school. I remember once I was taking this class and I was having a hard time understanding certain things. I would understand one thing when it comes to the discussion I get all confused again. I am not the type to not know what I am doing so that has taken a big toll on me.  I don’t really express my feelings especially when I think I am not performing well, I prefer to just keep to myself but I ended up taking all my frustration on the closest person to me which was my girlfriend. Not that I had a problem with her but I was mad at myself about school so I took it out on her. She asked me questions as simple as how are you I got irritated. I realized what was happening and I talked to my girl about it and explained to her what was going on and she understood and stopped doing these little things that I kind of irritated me during that time.

You see what I am trying to get at many things will happen while in a relationship and we may not know how to handle it. Different people have different ways of handling different situations.  I could have easily asked my girl for some time apart which may not have been a good thing for me at the time.

Now, if you are in a relationship and you feel that your significant other is smothering you  or there’s just too much going on which you can’t handle at the time, I say make your significant other a part of your problem or situation. You’ll be surprise that he/she may understand and help you overcome or find a solution.

I have talked to many people that I know and for the most part they have all come up with the same or similar responds, that  when people ask for space in a relationship that means they want to just go out and try something new without feeling guilty. Do I agree with them 100% no but there are some truth to that.

Does it mean he’s just not into you anymore?

When a man says he needs space, for the most part I think he’s not interested because man doesn’t really care about this space thing. If he feels that you are being too needy in terms of attention he may ask for you to cut it down a little but if he asks for space then he may be just not into you. I am not saying that’s completely the case but for the most part that’s what happens. In my culture there’s no lay over, either we are with someone or we no longer with you. Because I feel that there are no rules that say if you are taking a break from someone you can’t do as you please because technically you are not with that person during that time. Well, correct me if I am wrong anybody.

Another thing is that if he says he needs time to figure things out, which rarely happens, he may have another girl which he likes the same way he likes and he’s not sure which way to go but he doesn’t want to let both of you go.

Does it mean she’s just not into you anymore?

I have a couple of guy friends and whenever we get to this point it’s always one conclusion. Women don’t have time to play around thus when she says she needs space buddy, just keep moving because she’s just not that in to you. We feel the same way about women cheating, women don’t cheat just to do it like men do. If she cheated on you she’s not your girlfriend anymore. Now, to every rule there are exceptions, some women cheat because they are in need of something that you are providing while they still want to be with you..(This is a post of itself, be on the lookout for it). So when I hear women say these words, I need some time to think things through about us = take a hike.

All and all, each person will have his or her way of asking for space and that space may mean different for different people. Women and men are different thus they will have different ideas, meaning and definition. So next your partner asks for space ask them what they really mean by that so that you understand and not left in the dark.

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I have been dating my girl for a while now and we have never celebrated Valentine’s Day not once during our relationship. Does that make us the odd couple, well you can say that if you want but we are out lasting most of the couples that do celebrate Valentine’s Day.

Before I even start this, please understand that I am not telling people not to celebrate February 14^th, hey if into this type of thing, go for it, but just take a look at my take on the whole thing.

My biggest problem with Valentine’s Day is that it is the only day the best comes out of most relationships.  Some people are really looking forward to it because it’s the only day that their husband, boyfriend treats them with a little bit of respect.  If you think you are worth getting pampered, flowers, chocolate and gifts once a year that is all good and dandy.  Wouldn’t you like to have the same type of treatment all year long, at least most of the year?

Why can’t your love one receive the same kind of treatment, love, care and so on?  Well my take on this is that a love that is only shown once a year is not real love. Love shouldn’t be expressed to its fullest potential only on a holiday but on any day. I can’t wait one day out of the year to tell my girlfriend that I love her and buy her something nice and wait for next year to do the same thing over. Well let me tell you guys, I wouldn’t have a girlfriend if that were the case.

I remember being in high school, Valentine’s Days was the only day we would know who was dating who because of all the flowers and gifts being delivered. I mean it’s a nice gesture to send your girl friend a nice vase of flower while she’s at work or school with some nice words that will brighten up her day but don’t wait until the 14^th of February do it. If you really love or appreciate the person you are with, show it throughout the year not just that one day.

If your girlfriend or wife is a bit tense from working too hard; putting up with overwhelming school work and life as a whole, well send her to a spa where she can get pampered and massaged and the whole nine. If you don’t have that kind of money , well improvise, go on YouTube find some nice videos on how to give a good massage, my guess is she will appreciate it more than the one someone else touching her.

My girl and I buy each other stuff throughout the year; we express our love for each other throughout the year, so if I choose not to say how much “I love her” or appreciate it on Valentine’s Day it’s no big deal. I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this piece and I understand because these people may have the right husband, boyfriend that will treat them good all throughout the year. But is it fair to the ones that are not getting the same treatment throughout the year? Well I personally don’t think so but hey it’s just one person’s opinion.

My other thing about that day is that is it only a women’s day? Do guys get pampered too? I just want to know. I know some guys who are dating girls that are really disrespectful to them and during Valentine’s Day the guy still has to do all the nice things the girl expects! Why can’t that guy get some of that of that same ambiance? And guys if your girl only shows you respect, show you the love only on Valentine’s Day or do that special thing that you like only on that day, then that seems very problematic.

I know many may feel differently about this topic and what I have mentioned here but you have to really think about it. Why would you like your significant other to show you love and the respect that you deserve only once a year? As mentioned before, love is not a holiday but a regular day. Men, love your wife, girlfriend respect them, support them throughout the year. Ladies do the same thing, show your men support when he needs it the most, show him how much you love and appreciate all that he’s done every day not just that one day out of the year.

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