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Ok so I have an analogy for you guys, what happens if you leave your car door unlocked and someone steals your car aren’t you the one to blame, especially if you didn’t bother to check if the car door was  locked. What I’m saying is that you should always make sure that what you have remains protected, or it can really cost you. Ok so enough analogies for now; let’s get to the real point of it all.

I have always said and believed that if my girlfriend wants to do something as stupid as cheat on me, I don’t want it to be on my account or because of something I did or didn’t do.  Although men hate when women require their undivided attention, we do in fact try our best to provide all it if we can. I mean I can’t stand women that want attention 24/7. I think it’s just pure selfishness, when a woman wants a man’s world to revolve solely around her. With that said, I do know though that women are emotional creatures and they do in fact require that a man pay attention to them. They want to have that emotional connection with their man, to have something I feel to talk about with their girlfriends. So what I’m saying and this is for the men especially, if you have a girlfriend and you are not giving her the attention she requires, then you might as well, just stop being with her because she may start getting it elsewhere. Believe me some men can seek out women that are in relationships but are vulnerable because they aren’t getting the attention that they need from their own men, hey it doesn’t require much work on his part to do what her man isn’t doing.

Most of the time women end up cheating or come close to doing it because the guy they are with are not putting in the work in the relationship. If your girl feels that she’s doing all she can to make it work and you are just doing the minimal on your part, if she gets with someone else that’s giving the same amount as she is, then gentlemen you really don’t have a case in getting mad. Now I’m not condoning the cheating part, but I guess what I’m saying is that, women will naturally go where they feel wanted, needed or appreciated.

Ok so here’s a short story of a girl that’s dating this guy and she feels sometimes she’s putting in all of the extra work and he isn’t making much of an effort. They are in a long distance relationship and sometimes they go on for days without talking to each other for some reason or another. Sometimes it’s work, school, etc. Right now the situation is pretty intense because her man doesn’t even live in the states so talking to him is so much more difficult. In the past week he recently moved from one apartment to another and he hasn’t gotten his phone hooked up so they really haven’t spoken to each other for a good number of days. So this has really put a strain on their relationship, to her it seems that he just isn’t even trying to find a way to contact her at least to check in and let her know that he’s alright. She feels helpless and really wishes that he would put in that extra effort to make the relationship work. But it gets better, she is now in a situation where a “friend” from the past has stepped back into her life and he is saying and doing all of the things that she simply wishes her man would do for her. She finds herself being drawn into this friend although she is still very much in love with her man. Problem, I would definitely think so.

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Man; what is your role in a relationship:

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I am kind of old fashion and nowadays in a relationship it’s hard to determine who wears the pants or the panties. Anyone I talk you about this type of things can tell you my words and ideas have never changed. I get upset sometimes when I see men are being run by their girlfriends or wives. If you are a man know your role and grow a pair of you know what (lol).

A man’s role in a relationship is to cherish and care for his woman first and foremost. Having your woman taking care of you man, and you sitting around not contributing doesn’t make you a man, at least not to me, a loser maybe, but a man definitely no. I have witnessed many times where the woman is the bread winner of the house and the man is just sitting around or just hanging out with the boys around the block as his woman is out working hard and sometimes even struggling to make ends meet, simply because the man is too lazy to work or claims he can’t find a job.

I mean I understand due to this economy some things may cause a man not to have a job; I am not talking about men that due to unforeseeable circumstances don’t have a job. No, if you got laid off and you are still looking for a job or you are sick and cannot work, then I am not talking to you.  But if you just the type that sits on your butt all day and are not doing anything good and productive and expecting your woman to take care of you, I AM TALKING TO YOU THEN. A man should definitely be able to provide for his woman in some shape or form, it may not be financially but he has to be able to do for his woman and family.

Now don’t get me wrong finances isn’t everything, but it is a lot of times a deal breaker in most relationships which is I used it as my primary example, but there are other equally important things that a “real man” should do in a relationship.

5 Things A Man Should Do In A Relationship

1. Take responsibility – don’t blame your girl/wife when you are wrong.
2. Show leadership – where there’s problem, be the main one to find a solution, take care of business.
3. Make decisions – be decisive and whatever the outcome maybe take responsibility for it.
4. Be Strong - you can ask anyone that knows me; they probably tell you that I rarely get mad simply because I know how to manage my anger. I am always keeping it strong for my girl because I have to be strong for her.
5. Be a man – be self-reliant, be disciplined, be trust worthy, be the care taker.

Now for my rampage: Many women have ceased this opportunity to run the show because they are the bread winner in the relationship. Well I got news for you too; money doesn’t determine who’s the man or the woman.  If you for once thought that since you are making more money than your man you can act as if you are the man of the house you have something else coming.

It doesn’t matter if I am making $2 an hour and my girlfriend/wife is making $20 an hour, I still wear the pants, which means that it’s not about her money or my money but about our money and we both decide how and where it should get spent. Ok rampage over, just needed to get that off my chest.

But to conclude, a man should realize and understand how important and significant his role is in a relationship, I don’t think a woman would want a man that couldn’t stand up and take charge if need be. Men your woman depend on you, so man up!

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13 Things Men Hate about Women!

Before I even start this let me say that many of you may feel the need to ask for my head on a platter but I have to do this one.

We love the time we spend with our significant others but there are some things they do that really irritate the crap out of us men. It doesn’t matter how sweet a girlfriend, wife is there’s always this one thing that annoys us. So ladies now you can’t say you don’t know what can irritate your men. Hope you enjoy!

1. 1. Requiring your undivided attention

I don’t know why but girls are always crying for attention, its like no matter how much you try to give them, it never seems to be sufficient.  I don’t mind spending time with my girl but sometimes I think they get too needy with this attention business. Guys want to have time for himself too, you know to play video games, watch sports and stuff or even hang out with the boys. I think if women would just chill out and let their men chill then they wouldn’t be getting the artificial attention they sometimes get. So ladies all I’m say is stop begging for the attention and just let it flow naturally.

1. 2. Saying “ You are just overreacting” when you are upset

One thing I learned about women is that, whenever they are mad you have to be extra sensitive towards them to not hurt their feelings but when a guy is mad he’s always over reacting. What’s wrong with a guy getting mad if he sees you giggling with another man, huh? Not that I do that but you know what I mean. If your boyfriend/husband is mad about something try to understand and don’t say he’s over reacting.

1. 3. Passive-aggressive when mad

Man this one right here is a killer. I know she’s mad and I asked and she’s telling me nothing is wrong. After asking for a while she returns and lets me know well, you are my problem and she just starts pouring everything down on me, all the anger, frustrations and blames. You know you are mad and I know you are mad, why the silent treatment or say nothing is wrong when I ask?

1. 4. Interrupts you as you are talking

Ladies we hate when are trying to talk and you keep interrupting the conversation. Sometimes you interrupt the conversation to say something that is not even related to the subject. Something like, oh babe I saw this nice handbag can I get it. STOP DOING THAT.

1. 5. Talking while you are driving

Guys you know when you are driving somewhere and you missed the exit or the street supposed to be on. You are trying to find your way back but there goes your girlfriend freaking out, talking in your head about, how you should have taken the exit, or made that right turn. We hate when you guys do that.

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It was March 8^th 1997, my second day in this new city, state, country and a new church. As I walked into the church that morning, I was greeted by the ushers standing at the door and they offered to show me the way to inside of the church. I guess since they saw that I was young they sent me to the junior’s class.   I think I was 2 years or older than most of the kids in that class. I walked in and sat down in the back room. I had no idea what was going on or what they were saying, after all I had just migrated from a non English speaking country. I as sat in the back trying to figure out what they were saying or singing, I saw her walked across the room making her way out to go to the restroom.  My eyes followed her as she made her out the door, and no, I didn’t follow her to the restroom .

I was counting and hoping that she would walk back in the room. And surely enough she came back. As she made her way to the front of the class I watched her again. From that moment my heart dropped. I know what you must be thinking,  at a young age I couldn’t have fallen in love, well I didn’t call it love I just knew from the way that I was feeling that I must have really liked her. Well, you may ask how you can really like someone you barely knew, I don’t really know, all I knew is that I just did and it just happened. Ok, let’s get back to the story. My thoughts were playing soccer in my mind, kicking ideas left and right. But with all the ideas, I had no way of communicating with this girl because I didn’t speak her language. I knew that she may understand mine but I wasn’t thinking about that at the moment. From that moment on it got pretty bad because all of my attention and thoughts were all about this girl. After church was over, I stood by and watched her lips as she spoke to her friends.

Going home

On my way home, my mother was asking what we learned at church today, I had nothing to say, I know shame on me. My older brother and sister saw how distracted and distant I was being and that’s when they asked me what was going on and I told them I just saw this girl at church today and she’s going to be my girlfriend. To my older siblings this was just a joke because they thought that since I don’t speak the language and since she’s so pretty that I was way over my head, especially since she may have had other prospects or guys that were trying to talk to her, but none of that really mattered to me. I didn’t see the other guys there because they were of no concern to me. So for months I tried to find ways to talk to this girl and ended up with no success. A few months later, I found myself  sitting with a group of people including her older brother and he asked me which girl at the church that I liked, I quickly replied, “your sister”. Although he said ok, I knew he probably meant, good luck buddy, don’t think it’s going to happen.

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