6 Most Common Relationship Problems and How To Solve Them

Posted on: May 1st, 2012 by relationadmin | 6 Comments

6 Most Common Relationship Problems and How To Solve Them

Some tips on how to resolve the most common relationship problems and starting liking/loving each other again

1.Communication

Communication in any relationship is essential. Proper communication requires both parties to participate. It is essential that you take the time to make the time to talk about whatever pressing issues before they fester and become impossible issues. So make the time, set a time, figure out when it would be best to have a family meeting, even over dinner, lunch, breakfast, before you go to bed, in the shower, getting dressed, need I go on to talk about whatever you need to talk about.  Important things to remember, communication requires that one party is able to speak while the other listens, no raising your voices,  have the proper body language, be conscientious of the words you say and how you say them. Believe me you will be off in a better, healthier relationship.

2.Money

This is in many relationships a very common problem, especially with this economy, lack of jobs, people having to get pay cuts, etc. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself and with your spouse when it comes to the money issue, because what you don’t want is for It to be an issue. Most important thing when it comes to finances is to have a plan set in place where both parties agree with the plan. What I mean is set a household budget meeting, know how much comes in and goes out every month, allocate money for important things like groceries, phone bill, light bill and any other bills, and then allocate money for some spending and then of course talk about how much you should save every month. In many relationships there are the savers and spender. Know who is who and work in making sure that the saver is the one that is in charge of finances, and that the spender has an allowance if need be where they don’t feel like they aren’t a part of the process.

3.Conflict

All relationships have conflicts, where people will disagree. But the important part is how you decide to handle it at the end of the day. There is something called conflict resolution technique that can help you and your partner argue in a more constructive way where you don’t disrespect, disregard, or diverge from the argument itself and leaving unresolved.  Important things to think about when it comes to arguing, what do I want to come from this argument? Are you looking to resolve a situation or get payback for a situation? If you know before going into the argument that your comments towards your other half will be hurtful and untactful then don’t start the argument. Take the time to really think about constructive things and valid points you can bring into the argument so it can benefit you at the end. No one will sit and listen to you hollering about things that don’t make sense and that are just plain hurtful.  Really a shift in your tempo and approach can change an entire tone of an argument and get to a resolution a whole lot quicker.

4.Trust

This is so important when it comes to any relationship. Everyone wants to be with someone they can trust. How this trust is preserved is by not giving your partner a reason to doubt. Be open about what’s going on in your relationship or outside of your relationship. If you had someone hit on you at work, tell your spouse and trust they will understand and be appreciative that you shared that with them. Be open about things that you are not happy about in the relationship, rather than looking for it somewhere else. Open up to your partner and let them know that you confide in them and that they too can confide in you.

5.Respect

Is another important thing that many relationships lack. It is so important that a partner respects the person they are with. Respect comes in all shapes and sizes and it’s very important that you set the standards in your own relationship. Some people feel so disrespected over the smallest things or simplest things, but that’s according to whom? You, so that’s why it’s important to know what they find offensive or disrespectful so you can be respectful of them.  Be consistent, be on time, do the things you say you will, be fair in an argument, respect their boundaries, don’t dig into old wounds, call when you say you will, etc, etc.

6.Sex

Last and definitely not least, sex a huge problem in many relationships. Some people over time forget the importance of sharing that much needed quality time with their spouse. Having sex, making love to the one you love is a natural part of life especially when you are in love with the one your with and want to share that experience with them.

Sex is a way of bringing a couple closer together and can also help some of the tension that goes on sometimes in any healthy relationship.  If it’s the time you lack to have sex, and then make the time, there is nothing wrong with planning out a time and allowing the excitement to be built around that time.

Also during that time mix it up a little if you have to, to remove the element of something that was planned and has to last an X amount of time. Ladies, get sexy for your men. Men find out what turns you r ladies on. Do your homework ladies and gents.  But if you find that your sexual problems cannot be resolved on their own then it not a bad idea to get the appropriate medical help necessary to make it happen.

Okay so I think you all have had enough and these are some of the common relationship problems that most couple faced! If you have any other major relationship problems that you can think of, please comment below and let us know.

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6 Responses

  1. daphne says:

    ok i think that the communication problelm makes a big deal because in my opinion to get my point across i feel as if i have to raise my voice. im the type of person that has to get her point proven…in my relationship we both argue alot and never listen to each other..i just think that raising your voice is the best way to communicate…in my opinion

  2. Thank you Daphne for your comment. I can see where you are coming from, however you just prove our point in your own statement. If both of you are screaming and none of you are listening what’s the point of even talking?

    If you trying to make a point and I am not listening to you what you are saying means nothing to me. raising your voice is not the best way to communicate. I know people once people start to scream they hear nothing because they completely shutdown. I guess all I am saying is that in order to have an effective conversation, people must be willing to listen and hear. And most of the time screaming doesn’t help the cause.

    What do you think about this?

  3. daphne says:

    then whats the point of talking!!!

  4. Screaming and/or yelling is not talking. Be real with me, if you mother or father is asking you to do something or telling you something but they are screaming and yelling at you what’s the likelihood that you’ll listen or hear them?

    it’s the same thing when you are talking you take your time to make your point. If the person you are talking is not allowing you to make your point, stop talking and move on. But until you make your point and they understand the problem will remain.

    I see screaming and yelling in a relationship as a sign of disrespect. If you scream at me while talking then it says that you don’t respect me. No respect, then we going to have a problem.

  5. daphne says:

    well every relationship is different..maybe raising your voice is the only way

  6. Of course all relationship are different, there’s always going to be an exception to every rule. What may work for one may not work for another but in majority of cases these are the things that people face in relationships.

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