The Series: Part I
There are many different things that Johny and I disagree on, but this topic is definitely not one of them. As I develop this topic, I want you to go into it with me with an open mind and seriously reflect on yourself and of on your past orcurrent relationship. All I am looking to do is to open you up to the possibility that relationships are in fact made to last, but of course that’s going to take some work. So all in all this article or post is for those that who want and willing to make their relationships last!
What’s wrong with me? relationships don’t last
If you’re in a relationship or have been in many relationships, then it’s about time you start asking yourself this very question. What in the world is wrong with ME? It’s important that we stop blaming the other person when things don’t work out, but rather see what part we played. It’s within our instinctive human nature to not take responsibility for our very actions, but that has got to change if we want our relationships to work.
One of the biggest issues that usually are the downfall of many relationships that I will address is the constant bickering, arguing and fighting. If you and your girl/guy are constantly arguing, you need to look at the facts. Who’s doing or starting the arguments? Are the arguments that you’re having even worth having? I know this sound like common sense but you would not believe how many relationships lack these things.
I have to be the first to admit, that when Johny and I were younger, we would have many arguments, and me being the argumentative type ( I know, I know) I would many times find myself starting them and at times, I did it just because with no valid reason whatsoever. It wasn’t though until our relationship hit a rough patch that it had dawned on me that I was to blame for a lot of that was happening and had happened. (If you guys are good, I might just share what happened).
Anyways, I had to take a step back and see what was wrong with ME. Now, don’t get me wrong, Johny wasn’t innocent in all of this but before I could have attempted to get him to see himself, I had to see myself. (I’m hoping this is making sense). So all I did was I told myself, the only time Johny and I would argue about something, was if it was worth it to both of us arguing about it. Now time and again we lose our way and find ourselves arguing about silly things, but we quickly realize what we’re doing and just laugh about how we can let something so small stand in the way of our happiness.
Looking at yourself and trying to figure out what’s wrong with you, I have to admit will be the hardest thing to do, but you have to know your flaws, your weaknesses, what you’re capable of and what you are incapable of. Stop looking for someone to blame and start taking responsibility, because relationships are definitely a two way street.
Next Stop: R-E-S-P-E-C-T
See you then!
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yes relationships are in fact made to last, but sometimes some people speaking in term of the male figure, don’t want their relationship to last even if they have a good women they want to marry that women but in there mind frame they want to save that women for later….. because they want explore the world forgetting about disease…. basically what they want to do is pick argument so they can go out and do what they do saying oh at that time we were not together…thats why now a day in a relationship we have constant breakups… just because the male know that we are an emotional being they tend to toy with that because most of us women forgive easily… in other word i totally argue with the article but sometimes it’s not whats wrong with me but it’s what the heck is wrong with him why is he doing this to me….
08.12.2010LadyD, LadyD, I agree with you on this but my biggest problem is that, it’s a two way street everybody does it, fe/male. The thing is if you notice something like that happening, just do what’s best for you not for him. We (guys) do indeed think that we can save our food for later and expect it to be there when are ready for it. I know this, but just because a few are doing it we can’t just blame all of them. Reason I am saying this is that many girl/woman thinks like that thus resulting in them never have a Boyfriend because they think that all guys are the same.
08.12.2010yea i agree it is a two way street…but most of us female wont notice that because most of us are blind with so call love… don’t get me wrong i don’t blame every guy but i blame most… i disagree with the last sentence because not all of us believe all guys are the same most yea all no. i believe some women choose not to be in a relationship because most meaning 90 percent of the male in our generation prefer not to be in a relationship but rather do the friends with benefit crap… i feel we shouldn’t have to settle for less for a half ass men don’t know where he wants in life but trying to dress to impress and keeping up with the latest fashion, or a man that don’t know what the heck respect mean, or a guy that can’t deal with the fact that you want to wait until you get married to have sexual intercourse…. true or false its hard to find a good women and it’s extra hard for an independent women to get a good man so instead of settling some of us rather be alone and rather wait on what God have for us even if it come 10 years down the line….like the term say GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT…..
08.12.2010I have been maried for 7 years and been with that man ever since I can remember. To be honest, it’s not easy to get a good relationshiph if you dont put God first. I left Haiti in the year 2000 and it was hard to live that far from the man that I couldnt live a day without seeing was hard. I always argue with him for no reason. Some simple arguement was “Why you didnt pick the phone the first time I called you?”. Sometimes we spent the whole night talking about where he was when I called. Like Dony says I have to do a reality check on myself what is wrong with me? He is all the way in Haiti and I am in the USA. why cant we spend the minutes that we have talking about our future. I get on my knees and pray about it. To make the story short we now living together in the USA and have two beautiful kids. A relationships willl last if you stop blaming each other.
08.12.2010Wise words. Thank you for sharing and supporting the point of this article.
08.12.2010Ok Lady D. I understand what you are saying so many men take us ladies as toys (eventhough sometimes we have them playing with us). But sometimes we blame them like we are innocent, no we are not that innocent. we plays game the same way they do, may be sometimes cleaner but still. We break they heart too, we go out try to have “OTHER EXPERIENCE” then try to come back. As Dony said sometimes we have to look at our self in the mirror first then get to them. Yes they do bad but sometimes we’re just as bad.
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