Comments on: Finding the “Right One” http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/ We are sharing our Relationship Stories that grew from Local Relationship to a Long Distance Relationship. Great Relationship Advice Sat, 22 Oct 2011 17:28:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Gasou http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-161 Gasou Fri, 13 Aug 2010 16:08:29 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-161 Don I think that you and Rosie have a common point. No relationship is pefect. There always going to be somthing that i can't ask my bf to change and something that he cant't ask me to change, therefor I have to accept him that way if I love him and he does the same. That's when the tolerace comes. Not that I like the imperfection but I learn to deal with it and understand that it's a part of the set; it's eiter the set or nothing. Don I think that you and Rosie have a common point. No relationship is pefect. There always going to be somthing that i can’t ask my bf to change and something that he cant’t ask me to change, therefor I have to accept him that way if I love him and he does the same. That’s when the tolerace comes. Not that I like the imperfection but I learn to deal with it and understand that it’s a part of the set; it’s eiter the set or nothing.

]]> By: relationadmin http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-160 relationadmin Fri, 13 Aug 2010 15:57:32 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-160 Thank you Don for your comments and I really appreciate your honesty on this matter. I didn't write the article for women at least I didn't think so but thanks for pointing out some key elements. One thing I have a say though about the comments is that the part of about love not being pain. I have to agree with you on that. I believe love is what will carry people through hard times in a relationship. Love will help us to move away from a painful state to a painless state. Again really appreciate your honesty because our goal is to share our thoughts and ideas and also learn from others. No one person knows everything, we learn from each other.. Thank you Don for your comments and I really appreciate your honesty on this matter. I didn’t write the article for women at least I didn’t think so but thanks for pointing out some key elements. One thing I have a say though about the comments is that the part of about love not being pain. I have to agree with you on that. I believe love is what will carry people through hard times in a relationship. Love will help us to move away from a painful state to a painless state. Again really appreciate your honesty because our goal is to share our thoughts and ideas and also learn from others. No one person knows everything, we learn from each other..

]]> By: Don http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-159 Don Fri, 13 Aug 2010 15:45:49 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-159 I haven't read anybodies else comments, but I believe you have stuck a nail on the dilemma in relationships on the head. I believe the article/blog u wrote is very eloquently written, but I believe the blog is primary written for women not for the men. To be brutally honest majority of men are not looking for Miss Right, but for Miss Right now. Outside of church thats what most men are looking for and like you said women get caught in that movie ideal perfect man image. One must first understand like aforementioned previously in the blog that no one person is perfect that we all have are flaws and imperfections. Knowing that should lead people to know that there will never be perfect intimate relationship with anybody, but unfortunately majority of people miss the boat on that one. People get disappointed all the time in a relationship because we have this perceived notion of a perfect relationship; its not real and can never be achieved, but that doesn't mean we can't work around your imperfections in a relationship to keep strong, lasting, healthy, and loving. I believe a relationship come all varieties from family, friends, work, etc. its something that needs to be constantly work on to be successful at like you have mention earlier. Nothing in life comes easy, and definitely not a relationship if i did people would take it for granted and the significant would feel under-appreciated. I totally agree with u on outweighing the pros vs cons of a relationship that determines whether you should stay with someone thats good for you or to leave. You have to look real rational at that and remove the emotion aspect of that (which is very difficult for most people to do remove the emotion portion). I'm saying to be robot in relationship, but to look at it with a grain of salt. Last thing i want to say is the old adage is that pain is love, I say bull****. Love doesn't begot pain or why does loving someone hurt in a painful way??? Thats crazy!! Yes you go through up and downs, road bumps, but its how u get through them love is suppose to be (my understanding) loving, HAPPY, caring, comforting, and something in where you can be yourself(vulnerable). To me love is not pain and someone is causing you pain in a relationship there is no love there. I haven’t read anybodies else comments, but I believe you have stuck a nail on the dilemma in relationships on the head. I believe the article/blog u wrote is very eloquently written, but I believe the blog is primary written for women not for the men. To be brutally honest majority of men are not looking for Miss Right, but for Miss Right now. Outside of church thats what most men are looking for and like you said women get caught in that movie ideal perfect man image. One must first understand like aforementioned previously in the blog that no one person is perfect that we all have are flaws and imperfections. Knowing that should lead people to know that there will never be perfect intimate relationship with anybody, but unfortunately majority of people miss the boat on that one.

People get disappointed all the time in a relationship because we have this perceived notion of a perfect relationship; its not real and can never be achieved, but that doesn’t mean we can’t work around your imperfections in a relationship to keep strong, lasting, healthy, and loving. I believe a relationship come all varieties from family, friends, work, etc. its something that needs to be constantly work on to be successful at like you have mention earlier. Nothing in life comes easy, and definitely not a relationship if i did people would take it for granted and the significant would feel under-appreciated. I totally agree with u on outweighing the pros vs cons of a relationship that determines whether you should stay with someone thats good for you or to leave. You have to look real rational at that and remove the emotion aspect of that (which is very difficult for most people to do remove the emotion portion). I’m saying to be robot in relationship, but to look at it with a grain of salt.

Last thing i want to say is the old adage is that pain is love, I say bull****. Love doesn’t begot pain or why does loving someone hurt in a painful way??? Thats crazy!! Yes you go through up and downs, road bumps, but its how u get through them love is suppose to be (my understanding) loving, HAPPY, caring, comforting, and something in where you can be yourself(vulnerable). To me love is not pain and someone is causing you pain in a relationship there is no love there.

]]> By: relationadmin http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-155 relationadmin Thu, 12 Aug 2010 23:53:16 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-155 Thank you Joe for replying and I do value each person's opinion but what do you mean by the worst ones fall in love? Thank you Joe for replying and I do value each person’s opinion but what do you mean by the worst ones fall in love?

]]> By: joe http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-154 joe Thu, 12 Aug 2010 23:48:54 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-154 love is nothing the worst one fall in love you know who you want to be with if good attitude respect god respect you to many bad guy aroud but let god handle it for you is in control not because of you but you are different than the other know what you waiting for what uu want who u want to be with . love is nothing the worst one fall in love you know who you want to be with if good attitude respect god respect you to many bad guy aroud but let god handle it for you is in control not because of you but you are different than the other know what you waiting for what uu want who u want to be with .

]]> By: Rosie http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-146 Rosie Wed, 11 Aug 2010 19:35:22 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-146 Jj, you will never realize the person bad habbit before you go in a relationship with them.All these stuff always happen after you've been in the relationship with that person.sometimes it even take years to see the biggest bad habbit side of that person.yes love is tolerance, you can say that,but that doesn't mean you have to tolerate every single mistake that person made. Jj, you will never realize the person bad habbit before you go in a relationship with them.All these stuff always happen after you’ve been in the relationship with that person.sometimes it even take years to see the biggest bad habbit side of that person.yes love is tolerance, you can say that,but that doesn’t mean you have to tolerate every single mistake that person made.

]]> By: Gasou http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-145 Gasou Wed, 11 Aug 2010 18:50:15 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-145 Rosie I agree with you, and I think you should give your point of view more often. I forgot to say that I like to think that people grow in love but do not fall in love. Rosie I agree with you, and I think you should give your point of view more often. I forgot to say that I like to think that people grow in love but do not fall in love.

]]> By: Gasou http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-144 Gasou Wed, 11 Aug 2010 18:39:16 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-144 To reply to what Jj said. I wouldn't say that there is no such thng as the right one; I would rather say that the right one is never perfect. Now to what Kiki said, me personally I would say that I can love a man but can't be with him. Maybe I love him but we can't deal with each other. I think that's how people get their heart break; they do not realise that it doesn't take only love for a relationship. They see only the sandwich in the combo and forget the fries and the drink. There's a difference between "I love my man even though he's not perfect" and "I love that man but he doesn't respect me, doesnt like who I am and what I do. It's not like a two way street." And for the date thing I agree with you kiki. If I cant't "Stand him" or "don't like him too much" there's no point of going in a date; I call that wasting time. But if I do think that he's alright; it won't kill me to go out with him get to know him and be his friend If I have to. My thing is if we can't be friend then we can't be bf and gf that's me. I rather have a thousand dates than having a bad boyfriend. Well don't get me wrong now, sometimes we have to move on to the boyfriend girlfriend thing and realise that it can't work. There's nothing wrong with having EXes. Only make sure that you don't wait too long to realise that you have to move one, and don't give too much of yourself so the right one can have what is needed from you. Sometimes we ladies see a man and say to ourself "NAHHHHHHH!!! he can't be my BF" but when we get to know him we are just perfect with each other. "The difference between loving someone and being in love with someone is like Rap and Hip-Hop. Rap is just the words and hip-hop is the feeling." To reply to what Jj said. I wouldn’t say that there is no such thng as the right one; I would rather say that the right one is never perfect. Now to what Kiki said, me personally I would say that I can love a man but can’t be with him. Maybe I love him but we can’t deal with each other. I think that’s how people get their heart break; they do not realise that it doesn’t take only love for a relationship. They see only the sandwich in the combo and forget the fries and the drink. There’s a difference between “I love my man even though he’s not perfect” and “I love that man but he doesn’t respect me, doesnt like who I am and what I do. It’s not like a two way street.” And for the date thing I agree with you kiki. If I cant’t “Stand him” or “don’t like him too much” there’s no point of going in a date; I call that wasting time. But if I do think that he’s alright; it won’t kill me to go out with him get to know him and be his friend If I have to. My thing is if we can’t be friend then we can’t be bf and gf that’s me. I rather have a thousand dates than having a bad boyfriend. Well don’t get me wrong now, sometimes we have to move on to the boyfriend girlfriend thing and realise that it can’t work. There’s nothing wrong with having EXes. Only make sure that you don’t wait too long to realise that you have to move one, and don’t give too much of yourself so the right one can have what is needed from you. Sometimes we ladies see a man and say to ourself “NAHHHHHHH!!! he can’t be my BF” but when we get to know him we are just perfect with each other.
“The difference between loving someone and being in love with someone is like Rap and Hip-Hop. Rap is just the words and hip-hop is the feeling.”

]]> By: Rosie http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-143 Rosie Wed, 11 Aug 2010 17:59:15 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-143 Well,kiki sometimes you have to go through a situation,for you to understand it.Yes you can be with someone,love them and you just cannot stand to be around that person at a certain time and place.yes it is crazy and weird what i am saying,i wish i could find another way to explain it to you, but you will never get it until you get to experience it yourself. By the way I like the part where you explain how girl these days throw themself to a man to quitly without knowing exactly who that person is, and think that's love. I love it! You said you will not talk to a man you don't like.You know sometime we Ladies be ignoring the one that belong to ourself? Talking from experince... i rather talk to someone that i don't like,that like me.Because its our imagination that make us think we like that person.That imagination can only see the outside and not the inside. Most of the times it good you Learn to appreciate the person that like you.In that case i'll said throw yourself at him,get to know him,spend time with that person.Because i believe that by spendind time, your feeling will start to built, and little by little you will realize that he was the type of man you were looking for to be with. Well,kiki sometimes you have to go through a situation,for you to understand it.Yes you can be with someone,love them and you just cannot stand to be around that person at a certain time and place.yes it is crazy and weird what i am saying,i wish i could find another way to explain it to you, but you will never get it until you get to experience it yourself.

By the way I like the part where you explain how girl these days throw themself to a man to quitly without knowing exactly who that person is, and think that’s love.
I love it!

You said you will not talk to a man you don’t like.You know sometime we Ladies be ignoring the one that belong to ourself? Talking from experince… i rather talk to someone that i don’t like,that like me.Because its our imagination that make us think we like that person.That imagination can only see the outside and not the inside. Most of the times it good you Learn to appreciate the person that like you.In that case i’ll said throw yourself at him,get to know him,spend time with that person.Because i believe that by spendind time, your feeling will start to built, and little by little you will realize that he was the type of man you were looking for to be with.

]]> By: relationadmin http://relationshipdj.com/2010/02/22/finding-the-right-one/#comment-142 relationadmin Wed, 11 Aug 2010 15:25:26 +0000 http://relationshipdj.com/?p=95#comment-142 Thanks for your reply Jj, so what you are telling me once you love someone you have to tolerate them and the moment you can't tolerate them you don't love them? So everyone you have a relationship with you're in love with? Thanks for your reply Jj, so what you are telling me once you love someone you have to tolerate them and the moment you can’t tolerate them you don’t love them? So everyone you have a relationship with you’re in love with?

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