I was reading one of your relationship stories and decided that I would like to share mine. I’m 25 years old and I have been dating this guy for about 5 years now. We both really love each other and I know that one day I want to marry this man, but I know that day can’t be anytime in the near future, but he wants it to be much sooner than I do.
You see, I’m in school and school is so important to me, and I just don’t feel mature enough to handle being in school and taking care of a husband all at the same time. I know that sounds selfish but it’s the truth. He tells me that he’s getting old and that he’s ready to start a family. What really hit home for me the other day was when he said he’s ready to start with or without me.
About a year and a half ago, he asked me to marry him, and I didn’t say no but I told him that we would be engaged for a long time if I did say yes. He told me that he didn’t need a long engagement, so he said he would wait until I was ready. Two months ago, one of his best buddies got married and he was the best man at the wedding, and that again stirred up his feelings of wanting to be married once again and he’s been riding me about it ever since.
I really love this man and I can’t imagine being with anyone else, and I know how fortunate I am to have a man that wants to spend the rest of his life with me, especially when that is a rarity in these days, but am I crazy for just not wanting to be married yet and take on that responsibility while having to deal with school.
I won’t be out of school for another 2 years and I asked him to just bear with me until I can get it all together but he told me that he just didn’t think he could lasts another 2 years waiting around for me to get “my life” together. I am so confused and scared because the last thing that I want to do is lose this man that I worked so hard to keep. So do I just marry him even if I don’t think I’m ready or do I let him go so he can find happiness? Please help me!