I’m 25 years old, and my boyfriend is 28years old. We have been dating for 2 years .and we love each other very much. I believe he is the one for me, and he feels the same way about me. I’m ready for us to start our lives as one. He tells me how he wants to marry me, but says he’s not yet ready.
Ladies I’m 25 yrs old and I’m not getting any younger. We all know that men are never ready for marriage right. They just want to live with you and enjoy you with no type of commitment. I’m not asking him to marry me today or tomorrow but all I’m saying is I want to get marry and have children before I turn 30. My biological clock is ticking. Don’t get me wrong I’m not trying to pressure him to marry me, but I would like to really know when he will make the commitment.
As we were talking we happened to jump on that subject and he was telling me how he wants to do this and that before we get married. I was looking at him funny because I’m ready. He’s talking about four to five years from now and I don’t have that kind of time to sit and wait on him. I told him that I’m not going to date him for no more than three years without seeing a ring on my finger. Ladies January 5, 2011 will mark our three years, and if I don’t see a ring on my finger I told him I’m walking away without looking back. I’m not crazy and I’m not giving him an alternative I’m just keeping it real.
I know what I want in my life and I have plans and dreams too. I’m content with what God has blessed me with so far. I just need someone to share it with. The main point to my story is that I’m not going to sit around and let a guy enjoy me and he doesn’t want to marry me. If we are together I believe it’s because we have some type of connection or something. We already invested two years of our lives why not just make it official. Why it is that men are afraid of getting married?
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i’m not usually one to comment on things but for the love of god! Men suck. i’m in the same boat now. i’m only 21 but i know what i want. i want to marry and have a kid by 30. preferably 28 but i’ll wiggle. i dont want to be an old mom. if i’m past 30 and i dont have a kid yet then i wont have a kid. thats it. end of story. and what my boyfriend (of 3 years by the way) seems to think is that he just wants to coast on through and see what happens. but i don’t have that kind of time! he doesnt seem to understand, if we date til i’m 24, and he decides that hes not feeling it, then that leaves me 6 year to start over from scratch. who knows how long it’ll take me to find someone else. i dont know what to do. do i stay and just pray to god it happens and possibly wind up screwed in the end, or do i leave now while i still can? is that selfish of me?
05.15.2010Hey Ally, I know this has been long over due but in a situation like yours, you really need to find out exactly what he needs or wants to do. If you don’t have a plan or a goal, what is there to achieve? So, you need to find out from him what does he wants and if what he wants is not what you want, Why stay? Don’t worry about starting over, most times starting over is the best thing. If you have a goal you want to acheive, anyone that’s not going to help you acheive them, just leave them behind.
07.26.2010I understand where you ladies are comming from, the reason why men are afraid to get married is because you wonder if you will be missing out on something better. It is pure false sense of ego working in men and they dont understand it. One way to get rid of that ego like I have done was to force yourself not to have a girlfriend, not to be attractive to women and live all alone for as long as you can stand it, and then some. Once you do that your natural longing to be with a woman comes back and you have a deeper apperication for being with a woman but if you are always getting dates, and having girlfriends left and right or even think you can, than you’re not ready to grow up as a man. Women men are not taught how to be men anymore, and just about all of you ladies especially younger ladies have nothing but boys deep down inside. I hope this comment has helped you out. You cant pressure little boys into getting married, and if you trick them they will cheat on you, and if you pressure them they will become scared and flake out on you and run away. After all isnt that what little boys do. Stick to us older men, we are past that crap and want wives just as much as you want husbands. Chow.
09.26.2010Thank you Kevin for this great comment.
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